Tasha Bovain | Essayist, Storyteller & Freelance Writer
Examining the scripts women inherit about love, success, and identity
I’m Tasha Bovain — a writer in her forties, an essayist, and the voice behind Unlearning Womanhood.
Here, we question the inherited scripts we were given about being a “good woman”—stopping the performance, letting go of people-pleasing, and figuring out who remains when we stop abandoning ourselves.
If you’re tired of living by rules that were never yours to carry, this is where you put them down.
Start with the free guide: Coming Home to Yourself.
My work explores cultural conditioning—the lies women are taught about their bodies, desires, worth, and what it means to be a good woman.
This week, I wrote about my motherhood journey. The pain of it still unstitches me. But this wasn’t a piece only about grief. It was the realization that grief and joy can live in the same house and sleep beside each other every night. I’ve held grief between my knees, let it bleed into my…
Every morning for the past four months has started the same way: me alone in my bed, typing my deepest traumas on a laptop—then starting work, hunched over another screen, feeling like a brick is sitting in my stomach. Two screens mirroring tragedies: one from the past, and one that still rises every time I…
I walk toward the doctor’s office, heart racing, my palms beginning to moisten. I inhale, exhale a few times. Still, I gasp for breath. How much will this cost me? What will be my diagnosis this time? Will I survive what’s happening to my body? I had scheduled a doctor’s appointment after enduring a cycle…
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Tasha Bovain is an essayist and reformed New Yorker now living in Matthews, North Carolina. Her writing explores identity, culture, and modern relationships through personal narrative and cultural commentary. Her work has appeared in Minerva Rising, The Bitchin’ Kitsch (B’K), and the East Meadow Herald.
Tasha began writing in 2007 after growing frustrated with the cultural messages women were fed about love, relationships, and self-worth. In response, she launched SingleandFab.com, a platform that highlighted single, professional women building full lives on their own terms. Today, she writes to examine the expectations placed on women and the quiet work of redefining womanhood.
When she’s not analyzing blueprints at her day job, she can often be found people-watching around Charlotte, always on the lookout for her next essay topic.
